I wouldn't go the texting or sending unsolicited FB messages route, as I consider this akin to stalking. Face to face is obviously better.

At one stage in my life I would get quite nervous before a date and that inevitably leads to a less than successful engagement. Now nothing would phase me like that, but I am 42, married with kids and too much at risk in a D.I.V.O.R.C.E. I suppose that is more evidence that youth is wasted on the young.

^Yes, but don't you think in the dating game, success lies in not giving a fuck on the way to the erotic city?

Confidence Jeff, that’s what women like most, a confident man with a sense of humour.
Ironically when you have been out of the game a while your confidence is naturally low.
You can work on that but from your posts on here you possess a great albeit slightly warped SOH.

The friend of your ex sounds complicated and a bit too convenient IMO.
Bops advice was good, get out there, life’s for the living. Good luck and believe in yourself.

Ha, my sentiments exactly.

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Or move to Atlanta.  There's got to be a really beneficial girl - guy ratio.  I see gaggles of attractive women out all the time, without men with them.  I also see lots of not so attractive, ok... ugly, men with VERY attractive women.

Tried Roofers? plop, plop, fizz.

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Hahaha.  You sly dog.

Thailand is the last refuge of expat tax dodging scum where they are left to the mercy of other gangster scamming expats and an assortment of lady-boys, ladies and young boys of the night all engaged in keeping the expat sucker on the vine suitably high on meta-amphetamine and drained until the pips squeeze or the heart gives out.

It is the mark of the beast on CV's - not to be employed as likely to be suffering with the early or latter stages of tropical brain syphillis. Not to mention the high risk of introducing a pervert into the locality of his employment.

Anyone who has to travel to Thailand for their paid for sexual kicks is suffering from autism of the sexual function.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9R5oI3RGunk

Someone told me he got propositioned in Thailand all the time whether his wife was there or not.

A fortnight of that would drive you round the bend.

I was on the bus last week when a beautiful Thai girl got on and sat across from me.  I kept thinking, "...don't get a hard-on...don't get a hard-on..."

But she did.

(Sorry if this one's been done already.)

Lots of good advice here. Especially from FNB.


BUT, to go back to the initial point it is acceptable to message her on Facebook. When I was single I schemed on plenty of girls on social network sites. Via text too. All good platforms. It's a generational thing probably. And you don't need her mobile to text her, the Facebook message will go straight to her phone if she's living in this century.

Don't go for the date thing in a first message. Strike up a conversation, derail it talk crap bring up something that will give you an excuse to message her again. Repeat this process a couple of days later talk more shit, make her laugh find some common ground then ask if she wants to go for a drink or coffee.


Don't mention your ex. Really don't. If she hasn't heard already she'll probably bring her up and you can make mention of it all then. Mention it once and don't mention it again.

Oh.  And Jeff, make sure she in NO WAY can find this thread!!