Only once, when my uncle committed suicide, the devastation was complete and utter. That was 21 years ago now and the loss and bitterness reverberates still: who didn't do enough, why so much shame and who didn't see the signs and who was to blame? A family cannot survive such a sheer experience intact, was it susceptible genetics, bad parenting in his youth, talent wasted on that factory line? And the answers can never be found.

Other than that, touch wood, the deaths have all been long expected after illness and decline over years, or a long life. Others, on the periphery of distance friends of associates and colleagues have succumbed to cancer very quickly, or heart attacks (but that doesn't seem to be the killer it once was) and one lady in our street was killed in a car crash and the son of my mother's next door neighbour died in a heroin induced coma a couple of years back. But no one really close.

Of course, there was our fellow poster and friend, Liam on here. That came out of the blue and shocked us all to our senses.

You state "unexplained circumstances", I assume the coroner will investigate and confirm the cause of death?

Last edited by 4F Hepcat (2014-01-08 05:16:26)

Like WM, I haven't had any "unexplained" ones, but I have had some back to back losses, and truthfully, it's something I have never fully gotten over even years later. Very difficult.


Sorry for your loss.

I've had many friends die mysterious, unexplained deaths. I was at work.