I suppose if you're not a naturally socially minded person then you can attach a lot to the importance of objects like clothes or rules governing interaction when trying to meet women. I've never tried to meet women I've just met women and sometimes we like eachother. Im not sure there was anything more to it than that. The reason I obsess over clothes is the same reason I paint or play music I like a degree of harmony about things. Maybe some woman pick up on that and see it as an attractive quality? Im not sure

I'm not saying clothes haven't lent some added attraction to my person, but I'm far more inclined to think it was simply my charming personality that lured most of those fish of the past into my trap.  And being a performing musician works a charm.  Something about it women find irresistible.  You could look like a toad and be a complete asshole, but if you're in a band, you'll find success with the ladies.  I've always just worn what I like without obsessing about using the clothes as a means to impress potential mates. And since being off the market for some time now, the clothes have really become a sort of hobby.  A hobby I can wear and enjoy.

Haha. Yep.

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Exactly.  The fact that I take "selfies" is a real obvious turnoff for the missus.

I like an usual/excentric piece of clothing from time to time. But developing my personal taste in clothes and growing up a little, I find that it's very important to be restrict the urge to always wear or buy something special. I think a blue OCBD can be so much more fun to wear than a crazy patterned shirt. I had to learn that. I remember my first better shirts where always madras, checkered or with some kind of pattern. Now (still, I'm only 21) I mainly wear plain blue or striped shirts. I think it's an important lesson to try and limit oneself to the "basics" and then develop from there. Kind of see the shirt as a canvas and add some colour or pattern to it with a nice tie or patterned jacket.

Contrasting cuff and collar: I do not own a single shirt in this style. Still I think one can pull it off. It has to be a perfect shirt, preferably with bold stripes in maybe red or yellow. It's not for everyone and I'd say most people should stay away from it. Just my opinion.

Regarding overall "Individuality": I do not really care about belonging or not belonging to a group. I'd say that everyone likes to hang out/associate with people that have similar interests, thus often looking similar in terms of clothing. Since there are only so many options if you don't want to make a complete fool of yourself, you will have to wear stuff that other people wear as well (Isn't that the point anyway? You go to the opera in a tuxedo and not in a t-shirt because...).
I think it's more about HOW you wear your clothes instead of WHAT you wear. I like to make sure that what I wear is 100% what I want to wear. Nobody will look like you even if you generally wear similar clothes. It happens quite often, that some of my friends will have a very similar outfit to that I'm wearing. For example in summer I often end up wearing just a blue shirt, khaki's and boat shoes. Still the shirt collar, cut of the trousers etc. will never be a 100% similar. You wear the clothes, you put creases in them, wear them down, you polish your shoes, you tie your tie knot etc.

What I'm trying to say is, that I don't really get this whole individuality thing. Everyone is an individual (Duh...), some might dress more excentric but that doesn't make them less or more "individual", the clothes are just mainly more flashy. It's about the context as well. When I go to the lecture in university, I will stand out more with a herringbone jacket, ocbd and loafers because apart from some friends of mine, most of  the students wear gym pants, hoodies and such. Yet, if I were to go to a place where people dress more conservately I wouldn't stand out anymore. Instead, the person with the hoodie and sneakers would stand out.

But I digress and I notice that I can't really say what I'm trying to say.

At the end of the day, I think, to stand out it's much more importan to dress well, wear clothes that you like and be confident about it. People will notice and you won't be a "faceless clerk", even with the most "boring" combinations. A perfectly polished oxford cap toe shoe made from good leather will always stand out against a cheap flashy specator that is poorly maintained.

Blabla. Sorry

Last edited by topper (2014-05-14 09:05:18)

haha

Individuality matters lot for every one that starts with the right dress ups. Making a proper dress up can help to make best impressions with people and about self that can speak volumes about you.