I'm attending a funeral in 2 days. Normally I would wear a grey suit, however over the past year I've become a fat bas . . . I've put on a little bit of weight. I can still fit into my favourite suit, however the trousers feel too tight and so do the shoulders. In the mirror it doesn't really show (the jacket hides the tops of the trousers) however in real life it probably does.
The only alternative is tweed and grey flannels. I do own a grey tweed so that would make it look a little less casual (I think) but still . . .
Regardless I will be wearing black longwings (the only black shoes I own unfortunately - I'd prefer a nice pair of C and J captoes), white spread collar shirt with French cuffs, low key, small, silver and blue stone cufflinks, and black silk tie. A suit is of course more appropriate, but I don't want it to look ill-fitting and I don't want to be constantly distracted by feeling constricted. In the tweed - which fits very well - I won't have that problem, but I will feel scruffy. Other males may be casual but I'm sure some suits will be present.
I'm probably going to go for the too tight suit, but it's not ideal and I'm undecided. The person being buried was a great guy so I would like to be able to commemorate and celebrate his life without distraction.
Opinions welcome.
Can you not just wear shirt and tie and a dark overcoat?
I'd go for the suit personally.
Last edited by Yuca (2015-11-17 12:39:09)
I don't have time or funds to get a new suit, plus I hope to get back in shape (ha).
Don't get hung up on clothing.
Attending shows respect. Providing you are not wearing slob clothing it will not matter too much.
I know it is nice to do it properly - but if you have no suit, so be it. You will not be the only person to attend a funeral without a suit.
It's more on the shoulders that is the main problem, rather than a bloated stomach, but I think you're right about sticking with the suit.
maybe you can maximize room in the coat by keeping your shoulder blades well back, it's good to do anyway ....
why the spread collar and the cufflinks though?
More formal/smart than a BD. You think it's overegging the pudding?
Whoops actually a straight point not a spread collar.
And don't forget - this particular event is not about you
You hope........
Seriously though - smart and understated, you can't go wrong.
I've already attended a 9 night (the gent was Caribbean) for him that was very busy, and plenty of people - including me - shared their memories. (I wore cords, OCBD and tweed sack - I should have worn a tie.) I imagine more of the same.
The last few funerals I attended had dress varying from completely casual to suits. A suit's definitely appropriate, but like others have said, don't be anxious about wearing something else.
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I dunno man, cufflinks seem a bit off for a funeral to me.
Simple Stirling silver cufflinks are fine. In fact most cuffers are fine, nobody is likely to notice them anyway.